So the last two days I have been running around taking care of stuff that is depressing, annoying, stressful, etc. I think we can all say that we have been there. These are things we do not want to do but the are necessary evils that need to be taken care of. Sadly when you need help and turn to those who are suppose to be helpful it turns out to make things much more stressful. So we all have an idea in our minds of what this is like.
So yesterday at one of the many appointments I was sitting at the table with the representative and there was a big bowl of chocolate covered cookies. She offered some to us and I declined. But as time went on I started to think that eating a cookie would be a good remedy for the stupidity I was dealing with. I caught myself and declared that the cookie thought was as stupid as everything else I was dealing with. I “desire” went away and all was well. I have to say I was very proud of myself for not caving in to the temptation. Even as recently as 6 months ago I most likely would have.
Fast forward to today’s stupidity. I was expressing my displeasure about something and the representative offered me a cookie to “make me feel better”. I said I didn’t want one but thank you. Cookies were offered as comfort three other times during the 15 minutes I was in the office.
We grow up associating food with comfort. Problem with that is that it often comforts for a moment but then plagues us for hours and sometimes days afterward. It was a hard lesson for me to learn not to eat due to a need for emotional comfort. Logically we all know it is not good but something gets triggered and we struggle. That is why looking at the issue of how, when, and why we eat from a cognitive perspective is so useful. It allows you to get down under the surface and deal with the bigger issue at hand so that you do not end up using food as the remedy.